However, all the things that she wanted were only Earthly attachments, and after the initially happiness of having what she wanted wore off, she became unhappy and unsatisfied again, things went wrong and these things brought her unhappiness - her business (because it was not successful). Her boyfriend (because she was scared to commit to him). Her home (because she had to move as she couldn't afford to life there any longer).

She eventually lost all of these things, through no known fault of her own, but by Life showing her that happiness cannot be found just through getting the things we want.

Happiness is found through Love. Initially by learning to love ourselves. And it isn't until this woman realised this, and by addressing her fears, slowly, one-by-one, compassionately and lovingly, that she eventually began to love herself and consequently others in her life.

She learnt that until she healed herself by peeling away the layers of fear, commonly known as our baggage, built up in this lifetime and in her past lifetimes, and until she stopped blaming others for her unhappiness, she wouldn't find true happiness.

She was fortunate because she connects to Spirit through her work, but this alone did not solve her problems. Working to heal ourselves has to be done in conjunction with working with Spirit. It's a balancing act. We have to get all the bits right! It's not enough to be a successful medium, for example, if you don't know how to cope with the ego (lower self).

It took this woman a lot of courage to admit to herself that to be healed was what she really wanted to do in this lifetime.

It took a lot of courage for her to find a healing therapist to guide her on her way. This was because she was very proud and to have to admit to anyone, even a stranger, that she had a problem, and say, “I am not the perfectly happy person that I like the world to see me as” took her great courage.

But she did it and she started to attend healing sessions and opened up her heart – she cried a lot as she re-lived the moments in life that had hurt her – but by doing so, they were cleared away (healed) and she slowly but surely found her way to leading a balanced life.

She became stronger, more confident and started to find genuine happiness. She found she could meditate more easily without her mind frantically interrupting. She found she could trust men – all men – again. She found she didn't feel guilty or beholden to her family anymore. She was able to release her attachment to her former needs. She was able to let go of her children and trust them to make decisions without her. She accepted that people didn't have to need her as much as she didn't need them anymore. She found she was able to let people get to know the real, beautiful, kind person she was rather than the previous ‘happy' image she used to project.