Taking pen to paper and writing lists of the pros and cons of the choice you have to make is useful, but at the end of the day you will know instinctively/ intuitively what is right for you, because it will be your truth and sit comfortably within you. It is almost a physical feeling in the pit of your stomach, or within your heart – the solar plexus and heart chakras.
We all make mistakes, we're only human and none of us perfect, or we wouldn't be on the Earth plane! Making mistakes is often how we learn our biggest lessons. We may be persuaded by other people that what they think is right for us, but it is usually because it is their truth and what is right for them that they tell us so, and not necessarily what is right for us.
Or, we take the people we love too much into the equation. We might feel “obliged” or “indebted” to certain people, but this could hamper our personal paths.
No-one said it would be easy to be true to ourselves, no-one really taught us this from our childhood. We were usually taught to sit still, be quiet and consider others, so much so that when we grew up and it came to taking life changing decisions for ourselves, we were so trapped in our childhood conditioning that we didn't even know that we could make choices just to suit ourselves!
I have been asked, “Isn't it selfish to put yourself first?” And I have to say, no, because if we aren't being true to ourselves and making ourselves happy, we will not be in a position to make others happy and spread this happiness around. We will always feel unsettled and ultimately unhappy with our decision.
If we take decisions that are too biased by considering others, or being heavily influenced by the persuasion or intimidation of others, we will not be happy in the longer term, and this will eventually present itself as a problem for us.
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